You can offer your own prayers. I have most of it handled myself, so just talk to them like you would if they were here.

[ He rips out a couple pages from the notebook and folds them up, then places them in the offering bowl. ]

Normally, there's funeral mourners for this kind of thing, so that can be your role. If you can make yourself cry, that's even better.

[ you can tell by his tone that he isn't joking about this. ]